Today, I wanted to share some of the reasons I hear frequently as to why some women think they can't or shouldn't do a boudoir session. I think they're important to break down because there are so many women, just like you & me, who have told themselves each of these exact excuses; but they decided to take the plunge anyway, and are looking back with the only regret being they wished they had done it sooner!

1. "I need to lose weight first."

Some say 5-10 pounds, or "the baby weight" or that they're "not as toned as they would like to be." What they're really saying, though, is they're afraid they won't like how they look in the photos. I will absolutely not discourage exercising or healthy eating habits, or losing weight for the sake of physical or mental health, but in all honesty, you don't NEED to lose the weight.

I've been this woman before, so I totally get it. I booked my own session about 3 months ahead of time to allow myself the time to shop around for my outfits and potentially lose 5 to 10 pounds, if I could. Well, if anything, I GAINED 10 lbs, because, well, LIFE. And you know what? I still LOVED my images, and now looking back, I'm SO glad it happened that way because it gave me the confidence to accept my body at any weight and I felt happier because I wasn't so worried about losing weight.

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2. "I'm not photogenic"..."I won't look like the gorgeous women on your website."

You need to stop yourself right there. One, never compare yourself to another woman's beauty! Your own beauty is uniquely yours, and you should embrace it! Also, NONE of the women I photograph are models! They're all 100% real everyday women with zero experience with posing etc. The right photographer can take AMAZING images of ANY woman, regardless of body shape or experience level. You can take the plunge with the assurance that I will pose you down to your toes in positions that will flatter your shape and your inner sensuality!

3. "I don't have any sexy lingerie" or "I'm not really a garters and stockings kinda girl"

Oooh girl, there are SO many other things that can be sexy other than lingerie!! Here are some things you can grab right from your dresser and/or closet RIGHT NOW that would make for awesome boudoir photos:

  • Matching bra & panties

  • Oversized sweater or a cute cardigan

  • Your favorite pair of sexy jeans

  • Your favorite black dress

  • Your significant other's favorite work shirt

  • Just sheets!

The important thing is that you feel comfortable, and YOU!

4. "I don't want my images on the internet."

We take your privacy very seriously, and only post images with 100% consent of our clients. We understand that doing a boudoir shoot is an incredibly personal endeavor, and you are in complete control of where your images exist after your shoot.

5. "I don't have anyone to give it to"

Although a lot of women book with us planning to gift the images of their session to someone special, they ALL agree it was even more of a gift to THEMSELVES. Boudoir is about capturing and preserving the story of your sensuality and CONFIDENCE. If you choose to share your images with someone, that's just an added perk ;) "I would tell any woman considering a boudoir session, to do it for yourself. Don't think "Oh, will they like this?" Do you like it? Because that's all that matters. Look amazing. Feel amazing."

- Mrs. S

My favorite collection for the ladies who are looking to spoil themselves is this GORGEOUS glass display box!

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6. "I don't feel comfortable being naked in front of strangers." That is no problem at all! We ask ahead of time the level of nudity you think you MIGHT like for your session, and you can always change your mind. There's never any pressure to show more skin than you're comfortable showing. We do often shoot implied nudity with fun work-arounds like C-strings and cup bras, but also can shoot with your favorite dress. ANY level of modesty can look and feel sexy!

7. "I'm too old"..."Boudoir is a young gal's game." Are you too old to feel confident, sensual or fierce? I say HELL TO THE NO. Life presents us with so many beautiful versions of ourselves, and each one deserves to be celebrated! There is a certain sensuality and confidence that comes only with age, and even though you may not be as toned or taut as you once were - it honestly couldn't matter less. A boudoir experience will rejuvenate your sensuality and confidence like nothing else can!

8. "I have no idea how to do my hair or make-up!"

We've got you covered! Hair & make-up is included with each full boudoir experience! We want you to feel your most glamorous and pampered for your session! You'll be in touch with your artist ahead of your shoot to discuss the looks you would like and you'll get a full hour in the chair getting styled in a way that will accentuate your favorite features!

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9. "I can't afford a boudoir session."...."I shouldn't spend the money on myself."

I'm not going to assume anything about your financial situation, but there are some important things to consider.

  • You might not be able to afford to purchase one of our collections outright, but we can make your dream come true by setting you up with one of our payment plans or financing through PayPal credit! Boudoir is an experience we feel like EVERY woman should have, so we try to make it as attainable and flexible as we can, without compromising on the quality of your experience and the products you receive!

  • If you're hesitant about investing in something you're not 100% sure you are going to love, know that if you don't like any of your images, you're not obligated to purchase any! The only investment due upfront is your session retainer, so you'll be able to choose your collection after you've seen your images and fallen in love with them!

  • You're worth it. How many times do you go through your favorite store (ahem, Target) and look at something you love and will make you feel good, but then put it back because you don't need it right now? More often than you probably even realize. So maybe you really didn't need those bubblegum pink sunglasses or awesome purse... but every woman does need to feel confident & beautiful and be able to see her beauty reflect back at her. THAT is what a boudoir experience can do for you and you DO deserve to have that feeling!

10. {INSERT PERSONAL HANG UP HERE} Your fear and self-doubt can come up with endless reasons for you to not do anything outside your comfort zone. It's up to you to choose if you're going to be more loyal to your fears, or to yourself. If you'd like to learn more about doing a boudoir shoot, shoot us a message!

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